3 Step Rewind

3 Step Rewind is a gentle, safe, brief and effective technique that uses principles from NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). It is designed to help the mind reprocess the memory of a difficult or traumatic birth (or other traumatic event) so that it no longer triggers intense or often debilitating emotional reactions.

The total cost for the 3 sessions is $395 and includes a link to an audio relaxation for you to practice between session 1 and session 2.

The process involves three gentle steps:

1. Telling your story – In a safe, supportive space, you have the option (you don’t have to it if you don’t want to) to share what happened. You will also have the opportunity to talk about how the memory of your birth is still impacting on your day to day life now and how you would like to feel if these feelings/ways of responding were lifted. I will take you through a brief relaxation practice, and send you the same practice in an MP3 link to practice ahead of session 2.

2. Rewind technique – Using gentle guided relaxation and visualization, you will be able to mentally "rewind" the memory from a calm, detached perspective. While deeply relaxed, I will gently guide through a process of remembering the event from three perspectives. Remembering the event while relaxed means your amygdala (the emotion centre of the brain) is not going into fight or flight mode. This helps your brain re-file the memory without the emotional charge.

3. Re-imagining the future – You visualize yourself moving forward, feeling calm, confident, and in control.

This is a brief and effective approach, and takes just 3 sessions.

Session 1 usually takes 90 minutes. This is the longest session as it is a chance to have your story heard to understand how it is impacting on you now, and how you'd like to feel instead.

Session 2 is usually 60 minutes. This is when we use relaxation and the rewind method to re-process the memory of your birth, and experience your future solution state whilst deeply relaxed. Session 3 is usually 40 minutes. This is a chance to check back in and talk about how you are feeling and what changes you notice. We also focus on building confidence and resilience; able to begin enjoying your baby, and your life again.

In person (venue TBC) or via Zoom. Zoom is usually just as, if not more, effective than in person appointments. People seem to be more at ease for not having had to leave their homes.

Some things to bear in mind your end with Zoom is: your internet connection needs to be reliable but you can use your phone if device is an issue. Also you will still need to have childcare sorted (so your children will need to be out of the house or at least contained in a place away from you where you cannot see or hear them) because if you are distracted (which most new parents are) with your kids around it will really negatively impact on the effectiveness of the session. In short you will need to give it your full attention.

After the sessions, parents often report feeling like they can think of their birth experience but without being retriggered, so without the high anxiety, anger, sadness, hypervigilance, flashbacks or nightmares. Often parents report feeling lighter, more like themselves, an optimistic for future pregnancies or with increased confidence in the parenting and in relationships.

Some people feel significant relief after just one session.

It’s suitable for anyone who:

• Experienced a difficult, traumatic, or disappointing birth.

• Feels anxious, angry, or upset when thinking or talking about their experience.

• Is living with debilitating trauma symptoms such as constant hypervigilance, flash backs or nightmares.

• Wants to prepare for a future pregnancy or birth without carrying past fears.

You don’t need a formal diagnosis of PTSD to benefit from the process.

3 Step Rewind is an alternative to talking therapy. You remain fully conscious and in control throughout. The process is brief and practical—usually completed over 2–3 sessions—and it focuses on gently shifting how your mind stores the memory, rather than retelling or analysing it repeatedly.

No. You’ll still remember the event, but it won’t trigger overwhelming feelings such as panic, sadness, guilt, or anger. It becomes a memory like any other—something that happened in the past, rather than something that feels like it’s happening now.

Yes. You remain in control the whole time. 3 Step Rewind is a gentle, non-invasive process. You don’t have to relive or go into every detail of your experience, and at any point you want to pause or take a break, we can. The focus is on helping your mind and body feel safe again.

It’s completely normal and okay,. It happens. You’re supported throughout, and your comfort and safety are always the top priority. The process is designed to be soothing and empowering.

Absolutely. While it’s best known for birth-related trauma, it can help release emotional distress from many types of experiences such as medical procedures, accidents, or any event that still feels “stuck.”

Go to my contact page and get in touch to arrange your sessions.

Most people experience noticeable relief, but as with any therapeutic approach, results vary. The process is gentle and safe to try, and even if complete resolution isn’t achieved immediately, many clients report feeling calmer and more in control after the first session.