Am I the right Doula for you?!

Choosing who you want your birth team needs careful consideration and shouldn't be a decision you rush into. Take some time to think about the kind of person would you want? What would you want them to do? What qualities would they need? What would their views about birth be?

It is always worth doing some free window shopping before hiring a doula. Like shoes, we come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and one size does not fit all! Most if us offer free consultations so that you can try us on and see if we're a good fit.

To help you work out if I might be the right kind of doula for you, take a look at my values when it comes to birth. Be sure to check out my testimonials for first hand accounts from parents and midwives about how I supported them too, and think how these reviews fit with your own expectations.

"Women’s perceptions about their bodies and their babies’ capabilities will be deeply influenced by the care they receive around the time of birth".

Ina May Gaskin

My birth values...

  • It is your baby, your body, your birth
  • Birth is beautiful
  • Birth is something you do. It is not something done to you
  • The vast majority of births are physiological event, not medical emergencies
  • Birth is a feminist issue
  • Choices in child birth are paramount. What is right for you won't be right for  another, and that's ok
  • Consent is not consent unless it is informed
  • An intervention free birth does not mean your birth was any more sacred than a birth requiring assistance. All births are sacred. Birth is not a competition
  • Birth plans are wonderful tools great as they help you get you thinking about your needs and wants for birth, as well as getting informed about all your options. If you don't know your options, you don't have any
  • A change of birth plan is NOT failure, just as making a birth plan is NOT naive
  • Birth plans can be known as other names to suit your style; perhaps 'Birth preferences' or 'wish list' feels more flexible to some, or 'care plans' appeals to those who want to focus on the way they'd like to be treated when they birth.
  • You will make the best decisions for you and your baby based on the information you have and the circumstances you are in
  • It totally pays off to access quality antenatal education and do birth preparation
  • You come with your lifetime's worth of social conditioning about birth, and it helps to reflect on that
  • All parents can birth naturally, and cope with the sensations of labour, when the circumstances that are right for them
  • Keeping a flexible mind and having a birth plan A, B and C will help you recover emotionally and benefit your mental health
  • Placentas are totally underrated organs and deserve utmost respect and celebration 
  • How we feel about birth in our minds will impact on how we birth with our bodies
  • The key to a positive birthing experience is how parent are treated and made to feel (safe, informed, supported, and respected is a good start)
  • A healthy baby is not all that matters (although of course it is very very important!)
  • It is not only a baby being born at a birth. It is the birth of new parents
  • Childbirth is an exciting adventure and  life changing event
  • With change comes stress, loss and grief. Even after birth of a baby! It pays to be kind to yourself and your partner.
  • New parents deserve to be cossetted and need to find their village
  • Babies are miracles
  • You've got this. You CAN do this!

A Second Opinion

My first client in New Zealand, Sophi, wrote her incredible birth story for Kapiti Parent Centre Magazine. To hear her words on what it was like to have me supporting her as her doula click this Birth Story.

We might be a good mix if:

  • You want a good listener
  • You want authenticity, empowerment and honesty
  • You want a calm, intuitive presence
  • You want reliability and commitment
  • You want someone with passion for, and knowledge about birth
  • You want a doula who can work cohesively with your birth team and has a great connections with midwives and other professionals within the birth community
  • You want someone who loves supporting new parents
  • You want someone who knows you are stronger and more capable than you believe you are
  • You want someone to hold space for you
  • You want confidentiality
  • You want a believer in your birthing ability
  • You want a rock in the unpredictability of birth, and someone who can support you through unforeseen changes to your birth plan
  • You want someone trained to support survivors of abuse, at birth
  • You want someone who is inclusive and respectful of sexuality and gender identity, and the importance of pronouns
  • You want someone who is experienced in, and qualified to teach KGhypnobirthing, and knows how to help you apply these to different birthing scenarios
  • You want a doula who will be naturally sensitive to the needs of your whanau (husband/wife/partner/parents/siblings)
  • You want someone to ensure you feel at the centre of your care; that you understand, can ask questions, and make informed decisions
  • You want a doula who is not afraid to get stuck in, use initiative and assist with practicalities
  • You want someone who supports and respects your decisions and choices, and doesn't coerce or put their own agenda onto you
  • You want someone who doesn't embarrass easily and will be respectful of your needs for personal care or nudity
  • You want access to an up to date and comprehensive lending library of books and birthing aids
  • You want someone who can help you prepare to birth like the parent you are.

So what are you waiting for?! Take a look at my birth doula services and my testimonials from parents and midwives. I look forward to hearing from you to arrange your free initial meeting.