How does this work ?

Not all parents who have experienced a difficult birth go on to develop trauma symptoms, but still may benefit from an opportunity to be heard in a safe, judgement free space. That's why I offer two options, from which you choose the level if support that matches your needs.  Sessions are available to both parents (where appropriate).  It isn’t uncommon for men/partners to experience difficult feelings after witnessing something they perceived to be traumatic.

1) Relief from a Debrief.

Are you looking for someone to hold your space while you share your story? To listen with respect, validation, confidentiality and unwavering compassion in a safe and supportive space? Are you looking for someone to go through your maternity notes with to perhaps better understand what happened?  Maybe to help you start thinking about future births? As a birth worker with a Social Work background I will use my listening and counselling skills to offer a non-judgmental opportunity for you to talk. Using a Simpkin and Klaus' tool 'Self Assessment of Maternal Distress After a Difficult Birth', you are invited to talk through as much or as little as you feel comfortable sharing and how it made you feel, and (if appropriate) what you might need to be different for future births.

Venue: Koru Hub, Island Bay, Wellington. Duration: Approximately 1 hour. Price: $120

2) 3 Step Rewind Technique (BRAND NEW TO NEW ZEALAND!)


If, after 3 months of giving birth you find that thinking about, or being reminded of your birth experience, triggers an emotional response that is impacting on your day to day function, (flashbacks, nightmares, hyper vigilance, difficulty sleeping, irritable, anxiety, sadness or avoidance for example), then you may benefit from something more than just talking about your experience. Some parents experience Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PSTD) after a difficult birth.

Some trauma symptoms can be confused with Post Natal Depression (PND).  Anxiety and panic for example are symptoms of both disorders. Trouble sleeping can be present with both trauma and PND. Left untreated it is not uncommon for trauma symptoms to cause depression. Living day to day with trauma symptoms of high anxiety, hyper vigilance, anger, sadness, recurrent thoughts, nightmares and flashbacks can drag a person down into a very low mood and depression.

By treating the trauma symptoms first, a window of opportunity is created to tackle the other symptoms of PND.  This is where the 3 Step Rewind Technique comes in.

The 3 Step Rewind technique occurs in 3 stages:

  • Stage 1, session 1. Approximately 90 minutes.
    The purpose of session 1 is to have your story heard (should you want to tell it, you don’t have to if you don’t want to), to understand how it is still impacting on your day to day life now and how you would like to feel if these feelings/ways of responding were lifted. I will take you through a guided relaxation and support you to imagine your future free of those feelings whilst deeply relaxed
  • Stage 2, session 2. Approximately 60 minutes.
    In this session we use Rewind to re-process the memory of your birth so it no longer holds any emotional charge or anxiety. While deeply relaxed I will support you to play the memory of your birth in 3 ways  - a double dissociated state, dissociated state, and associated state, each time playing it through then rewinding it back to the beginning of the memory. I will then invite you, while still deeply relaxed, to imagine yourself in the future with the feelings you want to experience, so you can experience your future solution state whilst deeply relaxed. You remain in control at all times.
  • Step 3, session 3. Approximately 45 minutes.
    This is an opportunity to check back with you to see that those changes have taken place.  The focus is to build confidence and resilience so that you no longer feel like you are owned by what happened and are able to begin enjoying your life again.
Venue: Koru Hub, Island Bay, Wellington Price: $275

I am in process of completing addional training in Supporting Baby Loss and Miscarriage and will share more information on this very soon. Thank you for your patience.